Life Balance in Quarantine: The Importance of Yes and the Power of No

Life Balance in Quarantine: The Importance of Yes and the Power of No
April 6, 2020 No Comments » Concierge Services,Errands,Personal Shopping CathiB

Here are the two most thought-provoking questions I ask my clients when we begin working together:

What things are you saying YES to…but should be saying NO?

What things are you saying NO to…but should be saying YES?

For example, how many times have you said YES to joining a committee, serving on a board, or volunteering for an event only to find yourself exhausted and disappointed that you now don’t have the time nor energy to do the things you’re most passionate about?

In time, over-commitment can cause you to feel stretched too thin and overwhelmed. Not to mention when you’re unable to do the things you enjoy or spend time with the people you love, your energy is drained. It can leave you feeling mentally and physically exhausted.

You are probably asking, “How is this relative to my current situation?” While you may not be running back and forth from activity to activity and rushing out the door to get the kids to school and yourself to work, my guess is that you are still feeling some of the same pressure during quarantine. I get it. I am too. Juggling life’s demands on top of trying to navigate life through a pandemic is way more stressful!

So with this in mind, let me ask you these same two questions:

What things are you saying YES to…but should be saying NO?

What things are you saying NO to…but should be saying YES?

I’ll go first. I was finding myself saying YES to more time on Social Media, boredom snacking, fear, anxiety, and procrastination. On the other hand, I was finding myself saying NO to getting fresh air, putting on “real” clothes, keeping a schedule, and getting enough sleep.  

Why would this be while I have more “time” at home? Why am I not making better choices?  As you might already know, it’s this dang virus and all of the uncertainty, disruption, fear, and anxiety that (for most of us) has essentially paralyzed our thoughts and ability to self-motivate. We are in survival mode ONLY.

As I was expressing my frustration to a fellow concierge, it hit me!  Thankfully, I was in a “space” where I was able to make the decision to do three things that have helped me shift my mindset and take back my power. 

  • Step 1 | I resumed my YES/NO morning exercise (more on that in just a bit)
  • Step 2 | I began planning my day.      
  • Step 3 | I began scheduling ALL of the above. 

Rather than networking events, client appointments or referral partner coffee dates, my schedule now includes activities such as meditating, supporting a local business, exercising, and hand writing personal notes to 5 people I’ve not spoken to in a while.  

It didn’t take long to respond positively to the structure mentally and emotionally.  I have felt more purposeful, balanced, intentional, and a sense of control over my life. I think what I’ve treasured the most is the feeling of normalcy.  Yep, the routine, the planning, the scheduling has truly helped me feel normal (whatever that is) for the first time in weeks.

So, what’s the YES/NO Morning Exercise? (First, a shout out to my coach, Whitney Bishop, who introduced this simple but powerful activity to me)!  Before you jump into your day, grab an index card, a post-it pad – something you can refer to throughout the day (hint: take a photo with your phone as well).  

On the top left hand side write YES and on the top right hand side, write NO. In the middle I also write “just for today”. Draw a line down the middle of the card. Begin writing what you will say YES and NO to – just for today.

Mine from today looked like this:

The key with this exercise is remembering it’s just for today. You will make a new list tomorrow! If I do these three things every day, I MAKE it through the day with some sense of accomplishment, control, gratitude, and renewed energy.

I hope if you are struggling to get your footing and/or to find a sense of normalcy, that you will give this a try. My hope is that if you do, you will reap the benefits of lifting your spirits, renewing your energy, and shifting your mindset – if only ‘just for today.’

All of us at InSync with You are here to help and support you. Please reach out via email, phone call or text.

“We will get through this together.” -Andy Beshear, Governor of Kentucky

Wishing you and your loved ones safety and health.

Cathi | 502.802.9335 | admin@insyncwithyou.com

Tags

Leave a reply

Facebook
Twitter
Instagram
LinkedIn
RSS